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God IS Love!!! Love IS a Choice!!!

September 27 2012

This morning I’m filled with the awareness of God’s love for us. Jesus’ message is all about love. Most of the people of His time did not get it and we know how the clergy of His time felt about it all. They were so threatened by his message of love they made it their job to stop Him. They were very comfortable following the rules. Follow the rules is what they wanted him to do. He calmed the waters when the boat was in a storm but he rocked the boat more often than not on the land. They did not like that at all.

Jesus’ message lives on…..but it’s evident to me that most people today don’t get it either. Just imagine what this world could be like if we all knew we were loved just the way we are and if each of us would live our lives from that place and love one another.

I think the most important message is that God loves us and wants to love others through us. For me that’s where it starts. What makes it so real for me is that I’ve experienced trying to love unconditionally on my own and have failed every time. My love for others without the realization that it is God loving them and not me ends up being unhealthy love.

God is the doer. The part of me that is one with God is the part of me that loves God, that loves others and that loves my enemies. That’s what God is…..God is love. Of myself I am nothing. In God, all things are possible.

For me, God is the doer, God is the initiator, God is the one who seduces me in my unworthiness. It’s all about God’s initiative! Our work is about giving that love back to the world. Our work is about letting God work through us, letting God use us in loving ways to be active witnesses of God’s love to the world.

If we could really grasp that God lives in each one of us and that we are intimately loved by God and that God wants to express through us I wonder what we would accomplish. If we could just let go and let God guide us and show us the way, we would be amazed at what would happen. I am amazed often!!!

Are you willing to let go of all your old ideas? Most people in the bible were afraid to let go. Are you afraid to let go? Well I’m here to hold your hand to encourage and support you. I’m also willing to let God love you through me, until you are ready to surrender. Surrender is what is required to be free to love in a way that will change the world.

Surrender simply means to take your attention off of the world’s discord and put your attention on God. See God all around you, in the trees, the flowers, in the clouds, in the homeless person on the street, in your husband, in your wife, in your children, in your life. God is everywhere and in everyone. Look for God and you will see God everywhere. That’s surrender! AMEN!!!

I can hear you now, “This is too hard! ‘I can’t do what you are asking Anne!’ Well in the 12 step program we are told, “To act as if!” ‘To fake it ‘til make it! You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Love is the prize.

I can’t prove this to you…..only you can prove it for yourselves.

Remember to Feed Your Soul……Seeing God everywhere is a way to feed your soul…..and for me it’s the only way to live.

Love and Blessings Galore,

Anne

 

 

 

 

 

 
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Loving Others

Loving Others!!!

September 25, 2012

There is a fine line between loving others and being codependent, especially with our family and close friends. The hardest thing for us to do is to be with people that are hurting, physically and or emotionally. Quite often when the people we love are in pain we want to avoid them and that just adds to the pain. Or if they come to us with their pain we want to fix it and make it go away. In a way their pain becomes our God. Their life and pain becomes the focus of our attention to the detriment of our own lives. Sometimes they don’t have to be in pain at all but we make it our job to be whatever they need us to be and do.

There was a time in my life when I did exactly that. There was a time when I knew more about what you needed and wanted than I knew about myself. I knew how you liked your coffee, with or without cream or sugar. If you asked me, for instance, what movie or restaurant I wanted to go to my answer was always, “Where do you want to go!” For me, at that time, if you were happy, I’d be happy.

As codependents we want to fix the problem. We want to help the people we love make the pain go away. We are uncomfortable just being with them and with their pain. At one time in my life, hardest thing for me to do was to just listen.

I’ve learned that listening is sacred. Listening allows us to be in the presence and in that place to be guided as to what to say, if anything. More often than not, listening leads us to encourage them by saying, “This is hard!” “I hear you,” “I am willing to be here and hold your hand for as long as you need me to.” Today I am not to quick to answer their questions. To the best of my ability, I listen trusting that if I listen carefully, I’ll know what God wants them to hear.

That’s what God does for us. God is in our pain and we are never alone. This truth is reinforced when we are willing instruments of love in the lives of others. We are to be evidence that God is in their pain. I can’t say that I’ve always been able to do this, in fact most of my life I did the opposite. I’m a very slow learner. I used to think I had to make life easier for everyone around me. Over the years slowly I’m learning not to do for others what they are capable of doing for themselves.

When we try to help others by doing for them what they need to do for themselves, we are telling them they are not capable. Eventually they become resentful and difficult to live with.

Letting people live their lives, make their mistakes, or experience success in working through whatever it is they are going through, is the greatest gift we can give to anyone. The kindest, most powerful thing you can say to anyone is, “You will figure this out,” In your heart of hearts you know what to do and in this process God’s love will be revealed to you and you will heal.” Pain in life usually increases our faith. Usually when people are in trouble is when they turn to God for help. Pain is an opportunity to experience the Grace of God big time, but you have to look for it.

Today this is my understanding of loving someone unconditionally. I have a long way to go in this process of waking up. I still make suggestions and maybe give too much advise but when I remember to just listen, which happens more often today, I feel God’s presence and love in the midst of what is going on and I call forth quietly in my heart of heart the love of God to shine through me.

Try listening more often to each other it’s the best way to love. Spend time listening in the silence of your heart of hearts and trust that what you hear is God speaking to you and guiding you and your words. Listening is truly sacred!!!

Remember to Feed Your Soul

With Love & Blessings Galore!!!

Anne

 

 
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Posted by on September 25, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

Love never give up! Love is patient, Love is kind….

September 20, 2012

O.K………I’ve been given my marching orders. I’m to write about each of these, attributes of Love and stretch my learning curve. Of course my mind is telling me, “Who do you think you are?” But I’ve learned that when I share what I think I know, more is revealed and I grow and change. So please remember I’m no expert on the subject. I fall short of living up to being a loving person everyday but my intention is to grow from letting God change me from the inside out. God is my refuge and my strength and of myself I am nothing. Thank you God for all that I am and am able to do.

 

From “The Message” Love never gives up. 

From “N.I.V. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy,

Love never gives up!!! Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy…

WHAT WAS I THINKING!!! This is not easy.  I’m sitting here facing a black space on this page that I call a “writing wall,” I have no idea what to write. When I come up against this wall, like right now I want to quit. What’s happening right now in this moment is a sense of uncertainty and feeling like I have nothing to say, but truth be told I think the bottom line is I’m scared.

So….please give me some slack if I just ramble on. It’s the way I get going, it’s kind of a way of priming the pump of truth in me. If I just stare at the empty space nothing happens. Writing gets the inspiration going and allows me to get out of the way.  So here goes!!!

I’ve experienced many times, in different situations, wanting to give up. This has happened to me so many times that I now just ignore the feelings and go ahead and do what ever it is…. “afraid!!!” 

Sometimes the inspiration just shows up in my writing. One thing I can say for sure is that although I can’t remember when the concept of God was first revealed to me, what I can say is that I’ve always known God. First as a child, that bargained and tried to get God to do what I wanted done….. to many years later realizing that “surrender” is the key. Surrender to God’s will is a powerful concept that I’ve proven in my life over and over.

Being raised Catholic for me was a gift. The Baltimore Catechism served me well. The one teaching I held on to was; “God is everywhere and in everyone, and God loves me no matter what!!!” The part about God loving me no matter what was not taught to me by my teachers but was demonstrated by my parents.  

Eventually I took a side trip from the Catholic Church. After marriage I was led to the Presbyterian Church and raised my family in that tradition until their father died in 1971. Then I went off trying to find my religious niche but was not led to another church for many years.

For the most part, I studied on my own and at times with other women and men of like mind. A few months after my 48th birthday, I found Overeaters Anonymous and the 12 Steps. That work saved my life and changed me completely. I’ve written an essay about that work and if led to I’ll post  it.

Three years later through my involvement in O.A., I was led to the Center For Spiritual Awareness, later changed to Center For Spiritual Enlightenment. One thing led to another and by the grace of God, I was ultimately ordained at the age of 54, as an Interfaith Minister of CSA. This was a dream bigger than I could dream but then God’s dream for us is always bigger than we can imagine for ourselves. 

In my mind this whole experience was orchestrated by God through the people in my life. People that loved me like my parents did, warts and all. No judgment or criticism, only love and support and encouragement.

I held on to the truth that God is everywhere and in everyone. God waited patiently for me to grow spiritually, encouraging me all along the way, allowing me to explore and study other religions.  God has been and is now a patient and loving God waiting for me to grow and change no matter how long my process takes. Love has never given up on me. My father and mother and all the teachers I’ve had in my adult life, were kind, loving and encouraging. I would not be who I am today without the Love I’ve experienced through out my life. God showed up in lots of people and situations.  

Am I patient and kind always?…..NO!!! but I never give up on that goal. Nor do I give up on the people in my life. I do my best to pass on what I’ve experienced. I do my best to be encouraging and uplifting, When I miss the mark I ask for forgiveness and move on doing my best not to make the same mistake. I’m not always successful but I look for progress and not perfection. O.K. that’s it for today….that’s a lot.  To be continued…..

Remember Love like your life depends on it……..it does!!!

Remember to Feed Your Soul!!!

With Love and Blessings Galore,

Anne

 

 

 
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Truths about Love to Ponder……

September 19, 2012

Truths about Love to Ponder:

There are two versions to ponder. The following quotes are from two different translations of the bible:

The first is from a fairly new translation called “The Message!”

The second is from the New International Version

 

“The Message”

Love never gives up.

Love cares more for others than for self.

Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.

Love doesn’t strut,

Doesn’t ae a swelled head,

Doesn’t force itself on others,

Isn’t always “me First,”

Doesn’t fly off the handle,

Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others.

Doesn’t revel when others grovel,

Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,

Puts up with anything,

Trust God always,

Always looks for the best,

Never looks back,

But keeps going to the end.

 

The New International Version”

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy,

it does not boast, it is not proud.

It does not dishonor others,

it is not self-seeking,

it is not easily angered,

it keeps no record of wrongs.

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

It always protects,

always trusts,

always hopes,

always perseveres.

Love never fails.

I know this all sounds beyond our ability to accomplish…..but remember, living in Love, these attributes are what we are striving for. They are worthwhile goals. Remember none of us can do anything perfectly…..but all of us can be willing, to be willing, to be willing, to move in this direction. With God we will do our very best and accomplish more than we think we can.

If this doesn’’t stir up some questions and/or comments nothing I write will.

Remember to Feed You Soul!!!

Love & Blessings Galore!!!

Anne

 

 
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Loving God, Loving Neighbor as our self…as our Self!!!

September 18, 2012

Loving God, Loving Neighbor as our self…as our Self…

As I typed my title above I hit on something. If we love our neighbor as our Self…..our higher Self that is then it’s a piece of cake….well almost a piece of cake. Sometimes that’s where I have to go with others in my life. I simply have to love that part of them that is one with me in the higher realm of life.  Mysterious and challenging, not easy but very simple. It’s one of those spiritual concepts that has to start with knowing who we are in the scheme of life.

I know today from experience that I am one with God. There are times when it’s evident and as plain as day and then there are other times when it’s hidden from me in a way that my only course of action is to fake it until I feel it again. It’s happened often enough that I can trust that all is well, not matter what….. God is in charge and all is well.

O.K.  To love others from this place requires me to ask God to love them through me by helping me to be kind, gentle and generous, not only with others but of course with myself.

Remember loving others starts with Loving God. I’ve learned that when I love God totally to the best of my ability, I can do what ever I’m asked to do, sometimes dragging my feet a bit but doing it anyway. I can remember saying to myself….”Do it afraid!” Usually I drag my feet because I’m afraid.  I’ve learned that if I do my part, even imperfectly, God will do for me what seems impossible for me to do on my own. Each one of those experiences reinforces what I already know and experience…..we are all one body in God.

God loves each one of us the same. Just the way we are. We were created in the image and likeness of God. We are sacred but we just don’t know it in a way that serves us.

Today I know that I don’t know anything and for me that humility. What that means for me is that I know nothing remains the same and there is always more to learn, experience, grow and change, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

So remember dear ones: Remember to Feed Your Souls, That’s the best way to love yourself and the best way to Love God.

Remember to Feed Your Souls Today!!!

With Love and Gratitude,

Anne

 
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Loving myself….

September 17, 2012

Loving myself…..

Loving myself like I’ve said before starts with my commitment to love my Creator and to make that Love the center of my life.

It takes determination, a solid commitment, vigilance, and faith that no matter what my mind tells me I am loving God to the best of my ability with the tools and knowledge that I have at my disposal at this time. WHEW…that was a mouth full!!! But also very true. Thoughts are powerful. As a man/woman thinks so is he/she in her heart.

As best I can I pay attention to my thoughts. I now know it’s not God telling me there’s ice cream in the freezer. But you can bet your life if I keep thinking about the ice cream in the freezer it will soon be in my stomach. Food being the drug of my choice is as damaging to my well being as alcohol is to an alcoholic. Everything I do starts with a thought. When I remember to pray before acting on a thought it’s amazing what happens but sometimes the temptation is so great that I find myself eating the ice cream before I even think about praying first. Today I love myself enough to keep ice cream out of my home. When I love myself in that way I am also loving God.

My body is the Temple of Love. My body is sacred and requires a lot of attention and care. Eating healthy, exercising and paying attention to my thoughts are ways that I love myself. I know that when I’m at odds with myself I am unable to love others.

We are called to love others as ourselves. Not more than ourselves but as ourselves. When we love and accept who we are, just the way we are, which is the way God loves us then we are able to love others in a healthy way.

There was a time when I knew more about the people around me because I thought I was loving them, but what I discovered is that I was avoiding and not loving myself. I spent time learning about others because I wanted to make them happy, I thought….but when I started really looking at my self and being honest with myself I discovered that everything I did was for my benefit. If the people around me were happy then I was happy. Here’s an essay I wrote a couple of years ago that tells this part of my story.

Healing My Life

April 14, 2009

Compulsive overeating and obsessive people pleasing were the demise of my life. Yes! My whole life. Food kept me from being in touch with my feelings and people pleasing kept me from knowing who I was, what my God given gifts were and what I wanted in life. I rarely gave any thought to what was important to me. I was concentrating on the people around me and looking for ways to make them happy. If they were happy so was I…..that is until I hit a bottom in my life, that looked to the world like a successful life.

I had acquired everything the world says you need to be happy. I had for the most part,  a kind, loving, devoted husband who was an excellent provider. I could go anywhere, buy anything, do anything, be anything and “should” have been very happy but I was miserable.

The one thing I knew for sure was that there was a God that I loved and that God loved me. I had what I thought was a healthy spiritual life. Most of the time, I knew that I was being led and could see signs of that in my life. But somewhere along the way I was derailed. I’d become so obsessed with food and people that food and people became my god.  I was brought to my knees because I was miserable.

My spiritual tool box was empty.  In the past when I prayed I was restored to a peaceful place. Now nothing was working. Emotionally I was frightened, frustrated, angry and disappointed.

I hated my job. Thinking that was my problem I quit working, but nothing got better. In fact my relationships got worse. My emotions took over making my entire  life a mess. I was not a fun person to be with. I was rude to sales people. My sister and I would get into screaming matches and I would end up hanging up on her. I was suffering physically as well. Headaches, backaches, stomach, gallbladder and sinus problems seemed to take turns plaguing me. No matter what I did I could not get relief.

Someone who loved me very much could see what was happening to me. This loving person told me that she used alcohol and drugs to deal with life and it seemed to her that I used food. She told me that she was attending AA meetings and that there was an organization for people who used food called Overeater’s Anonymous. She also asked me to go to Al-Anon. Alanon is for those of us who live with an alcoholic or have a loved one in our life that is addicted. I was ready to try anything and everything that could possibly restored me.

I went to my first OA Meeting on a Friday night in March of 1982. It was a small meeting with only about five people attending. It was held in a small, rather drab Sunday school room of a local church. As I looked around I was not impressed. That is until I spotted and read a poster with “The Twelve Steps of Alcohol Anonymous” printed large enough to read with ease.  As I read each step I began to cry. These were tears of hope. I intuitively knew that I’d found a home. I also knew that those twelve steps would fill my tool box, repair my life and allow me to be healed.

Well that was the beginning of a new life for me. I’m ever so grateful to the loving person who by the grace of God had the courage to tell me the truth. I’d hit a true bottom and was ready to surrender my way of doing things. Today I surrender everyday and reaffirm my commitment to Love God with all my heart, my soul and my mind and to love my neighbor as myself. I’m even learning to love my enemies. Lots to write about….lots to think about.

Remember to love like your life depends on it…..because it does!!!

Remember to Feed you Soul…..it’s a good way to love yourself.

Blessings of Love for each of you,

Anne

 

 

 
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Love!!!….continued

September 15, 2012

First a confession….I have not kept my commitment to post everyday. Remember I don’t do anything perfectly sooo it’s o.k. with me to miss a day once in awhile. Oh by the way I don’t think I’ll write on Sundays….But who knows for sure? I don’t.

So here goes for today….

September 15, 2012

I came across this quote from Thérèse Lisieux commonly called “The Little Flower in a new book called ”Walking the Little Way.” It describes Thérèse’s insights in terms of six qualities of the heart that can act as road markers for our own path: 1) a sense of inner freedom; 2) a capacity for a creative response; 3) a spirit of empathy and compassion; 4) an attitude of willingness rather than willfulness; 5) a spirit of self-surrender; 6) a pervasive and enduring sense of gratitude.

That sums up what love is all about for me. She also says that:  “The remembrance of my faults … draws me never to depend on my strength which is only weakness.” That’s what surrender is all about for me. Knowing that of myself I can do nothing but with God all things are possible. I know that it is in weakness that I am made strong by the love of God.

We can never realize just how much God loves us. I’ve often remembered that my earthly father and how he loved me unconditionally. He was always loving and positive with each one of us. He personally had a very abusive relationship with his father and instead of acting out of his wounded self he was, by the grace of God, able to transcend those wounds and love us unconditionally.

Although my God is not male or female because my God is beyond any earthly description, I think I’m comfortable with calling God Father because of my earthly father’s love. But…..I must admit I call God Mother also…. Father/Mother God is how I love to pray.

So for today I want to encourage you and be personally encouraged myself to look for Love everywhere. My call today is to ask to see every one the way God see’s them. I’m willing to ask and to act in whatever way I’m guided to do so…..God loves everyone exactly the same way unconditionally. God sees and knows the heart of every human being. We only see their earthly physical and emotional states. Beyond what we see is what God sees and knows. God is patient, waiting for each person to turn toward Him/Her. God is waiting with open arms to Love us into  relationship. Remember the prodigal son…..remember King David. Those two people come to mind as people who defied God and when they were ready God welcomed them back with Joy filled Love.

Remember Love like your life depends on it……..it does.

Love & Blessings Galore,

Anne

and…..Remember to Feed Your Soul

 
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