5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.
Following are my comments….
This is usually a difficult one to understand, especially when in the midst of difficult, depressing situations we think….”This will never end.” But I understand that fear…it is a killer. Fear of being uncomfortable. Whether it’s about being truthful about thoughts and feelings or taking risks to make changes…. it’s always more comfortable to just pretend all is o.k. I can’t help but think about the frog who falls in a pot of water on the stove. It is gradually getting warmer and wamer until it the water boils and cooks the poor guy to death. That’s what happens to us in our lives.
It took me 30 years of working hard on myself to remove the blocks to true happiness in my life. Being authentic, taking risks and living fully is what fertilizes happiness for me. I have many stories to tell but today I’m led to ask you what you think about …..
Regret #5, I wish that I had let myself be happier.
1. What keeps you from being happy?
2. What do you tell yourself about your life situations?
3. Who do you blame for your unhappiness or do you take responsibility for you part in the matter?
I think that’s enough for today. Take a risk and respond…you may grow from it!!!